One of the first concepts I teach students in my retreats and workshops is the importance of minding your own business. At first, “mind your own business” might sound harsh, but in this case, it is actually a gentle reminder to stay in your own lane, so to speak. What Minding Your Own Business…Read More
If we want to live a more mindful, peaceful, and joyful life, it’s important to first learn what we’re aiming for. I call this way of thinking and living “consciousness.” When we first embark on this path, it’s useful to learn what consciousness actually IS and what it looks like in our lives when…Read More
One common misconception I frequently hear about conscious living is that it is passive, selfish, or that it makes us complacent. Often, when we hear about consciousness or conscious living, we think of a bearded, half-starved monk sitting in lotus pose on a mountain top, far away from the rest of the world and…Read More
Last week, I had the honor of being interviewed by Lisa McDonald of the Living Fearlessly podcast. Please, take some time to listen and enjoy our discussion. I hope you’ll find it enlightening and encouraging! You’ll Discover How and why my journey toward living consciously began The key aspect I believe is missing from…Read More
When was the last time you compared yourself to someone else? If you’re like most of us, the answer is probably “a few minutes ago.” Social media is a huge part of our lives right now, and because of this we’re more likely than ever to compare ourselves to others. Our Instagram and Facebook…Read More
Triggers are a hot topic these days. Maybe you have become aware you experience unpleasant emotions when you’re exposed to certain behaviors, topics, or words. You might notice you get agitated and reactive and tend to blame the other person for this. “You triggered me!” You then might get controlling and want the other…Read More
Every day we are faced with countless choices. Minute by minute we make decisions, some big some small. Many decisions seem insignificant, like what to wear, what to have for breakfast, or what time to go to bed. We may not recognize those little things as decisions. But they are decisions, nonetheless.
In order to cope with the sheer volume of decisions we face daily, we go on autopilot. This autopilot is neither “good” nor “bad”. The decisions we make while on autopilot can take us closer to or further away from the kind of life we want to live.Read More
When we have a decision to make, we tend to focus on making the “right” decision.
We might spend a lot of time weighing the pros and cons of each choice. Our emotions are in turmoil as we think over and over, “what if I make the wrong choice?”
After all, you don’t want to make the “wrong” choice! What if you marry the “wrong” person or choose the “wrong” career? What if you choose to live in the “wrong” place or buy the “wrong” house?
Notice that I’m using quotation marks around the words “right” and “wrong” here.
That’s because these words are only labels about our opinion about the outcome of the decision.
So what could we do instead?