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What to do When You Feel Triggered

What to do When You Feel Triggered - The Art of Living Consciously

  Triggers are a hot topic these days.  Maybe you have become aware you experience unpleasant emotions when you’re exposed to certain behaviors, topics, or words.   You might notice you get agitated and reactive and tend to blame the other person for this. You then might get controlling and want the other person to stop…

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Principles for Conscious Communication

A Few Principles for Conscious Communication - The Art of Living Consciously

  Conscious communication might be the single most important skill we can develop to improve our relationships.   However, most of us struggle to communicate in a way that helps us be understood by others.   This happens for a number of reasons.   It helps if we know why we’re communicating.   Are we talking without…

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Why Relationships Are So Challenging 

Relationships 101: Why Relationships Are So Challenging - The Art of Living Consciously

  I’ve been a therapist for over 30 years, and there’s one topic I hear about far more than any other — relationships are challenging!   It reminds me of that part in Eat, Pray, Love when Elizabeth Gilbert had a friend who worked in a refugee camp, and all that friend wanted to talk about was…

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Do you have a good relationship with YOU?

Do you have a good relationship with YOU? - The Art of Living Consciously

  A lot of us don’t acknowledge that we have a relationship with ourselves. I think of this as the invisible relationship, because who’s relating to who?   We tend to have the cruelest relationship with ourselves. We often say things to ourselves that we wouldn’t say to anyone else. “Why did I say that?!”…

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5 Spiritual Principles for True Happiness

5 Spiritual Principles for True Happiness - The Art of Living Consciously

  Many of us want to be more spiritual, but we might not know where to start on our spiritual journey.  I find it helps to start with the basics. I like to teach my students about the basic spiritual principles for true happiness from which all spiritual practices stem. It’s just like learning any other subject.…

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What Love Is and Isn’t

What Love Is and Isn’t - The Art of Living Consciously

  Most spiritual traditions name love as the highest spiritual value.   This kind of love is a practice. It is a practice of acceptance, compassion, and wanting the best for the other.  When most of us speak of love we are referring to something different. We think of it as an emotion. We think of…

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The First Step to Living Consciously: Mindfulness

The First Step to Living Consciously: Mindfulness - The Art of Living Consciously

  We hear about mindfulness a lot, but with so many things competing for our attention, we struggle to maintain it. The fact is that few of us practice it regularly.     Mindfulness is about being in the moment, and it’s one of the most basic spiritual skills to practice.   Mindfulness is a shift from…

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Spiritual Intentionality in 2019

Spiritual Intentionality in 2019 - The Art of Living Consciously

  As the New Year approaches, you might want to ask yourself the question, “Am I growing through my life or am I just going through my life?”   There’s a big difference!  We symbolically associate the new year with a time of new beginnings, fresh starts, and new resolve.   It’s true that we can step back and take an overview of our…

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How to Make Decisions for a More Satisfying Life

How to Make Decisions for a More Satisfying Life - The Art of Living Consciously

Every day we are faced with countless choices. Minute by minute we make decisions, some big some small. Many decisions seem insignificant, like what to wear, what to have for breakfast, or what time to go to bed. We may not recognize those little things as decisions. But they are decisions, nonetheless.

In order to cope with the sheer volume of decisions we face daily, we go on autopilot. This autopilot is neither “good” nor “bad”. The decisions we make while on autopilot can take us closer to or further away from the kind of life we want to live.

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How to Make the “Right” Decision

How to Make the “Right” Decision - The Art of Living Consciously

When we have a decision to make, we tend to focus on making the “right” decision.

We might spend a lot of time weighing the pros and cons of each choice. Our emotions are in turmoil as we think over and over, “what if I make the wrong choice?”

After all, you don’t want to make the “wrong” choice! What if you marry the “wrong” person or choose the “wrong” career? What if you choose to live in the “wrong” place or buy the “wrong” house?

Notice that I’m using quotation marks around the words “right” and “wrong” here.

That’s because these words are only labels about our opinion about the outcome of the decision.
So what could we do instead?

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