Many of us wait for life to happen to us and hope we get what we want. We don’t take responsibility for our lives and our experience. Now, of course, things happen to us and around us that are out of our control. We can’t control the weather. We can’t control other people. And…
Read MoreThere’s a lot of talk about boundaries in the self-help and mindfulness spheres lately. Some of us don’t set boundaries at all, so a lot of the literature out there can be helpful. But I also see a lot of confusing advice about what boundaries actually are, how to set them, and how to…
Read MoreOne of the first concepts I teach students in my retreats and workshops is the importance of minding your own business. At first, “mind your own business” might sound harsh, but in this case, it is actually a gentle reminder to stay in your own lane, so to speak. What Minding Your Own Business…
Read MoreIf we want to live a more mindful, peaceful, and joyful life, it’s important to first learn what we’re aiming for. I call this way of thinking and living “consciousness.” When we first embark on this path, it’s useful to learn what consciousness actually IS and what it looks like in our lives when…
Read MoreOne common misconception I frequently hear about conscious living is that it is passive, selfish, or that it makes us complacent. Often, when we hear about consciousness or conscious living, we think of a bearded, half-starved monk sitting in lotus pose on a mountain top, far away from the rest of the world and…
Read MoreI probably don’t have to tell you this, but romantic relationships are some of our most challenging relationships. Why? Partly because you choose your romantic partner. You don’t choose your parents or siblings or neighbors, but you choose your partner. And the way you choose your partner is not so straightforward as it might…
Read MoreWhen was the last time you took a retreat? I don’t mean a vacation or a day off. I mean an actual retreat where you focus on your personal growth and spirituality. No idea what I’m talking about? We get so distracted with daily living; kids, jobs, a broken dishwasher, remembering to send birthday cards…the…
Read MoreIn the previous article, we discussed the difference between consciously accepting feedback and unconsciously reacting to feedback. But what if you feel the feedback is truly harsh? What if you feel insulted? What if you feel it’s unfair? Now that you’ve learned the basics of consciousness around feedback, let’s put that to the test…
Read MoreYou were just given some negative feedback, and you’re feeling defensive. Maybe your boss didn’t like a project you submitted, or your spouse criticized the way you’re dressed, or your mother disapprovingly commented on the way you’re raising your children. What do conscious vs unconscious responses look like? This reminds me of Goofus and…
Read MoreLiving Fearlessly Last week, I had the honor of being interviewed by Lisa McDonald of the Living Fearlessly podcast. Please, take some time to listen and enjoy our discussion. I hope you’ll find it enlightening and encouraging! You’ll Discover: How and why my journey toward living consciously began The key aspect I believe…
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