You’ve probably heard from self-help gurus and social media influencers to “accept yourself,” but when you really think about it, you might realize you don’t even know what that means. Let’s take a closer look at that. The illusion of perfectionism Most of us think that we will accept ourselves once we achieve…
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We hear a lot about growth state in mental health and wellness spaces, but how do we define growth? Some people think of growth as moving toward perfection, but I see it differently. Growth, especially spiritual growth and consciousness, is about becoming more authentic and accepting life as it is. This is a process…
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2019 is drawing to a close. The new year is on the horizon, and many of us are thinking about what we want to do in 2020. We might think about losing weight, earning more money, saving more money, keeping our homes cleaner, climbing the ladder at work, or any other number of things.…
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The holiday season is upon us! For many of us, we approach the holidays with dread and consider it a time full of expectations, extra work, triggers, and conflict. How can we actually ENJOY the holidays instead of wishing they’d be over? The answer is consciousness. Most of us don’t put much thought into…
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Many of us wait for life to happen to us and hope we get what we want. We don’t take responsibility for our lives and our experience. Now, of course, things happen to us and around us that are out of our control. We can’t control the weather. We can’t control other people. And…
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There’s a lot of talk about boundaries in the self-help and mindfulness spheres lately. Some of us don’t set boundaries at all, so a lot of the literature out there can be helpful. But I also see a lot of confusing advice about what boundaries actually are, how to set them, and how to…
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One of the first concepts I teach students in my retreats and workshops is the importance of minding your own business. At first, “mind your own business” might sound harsh, but in this case, it is actually a gentle reminder to stay in your own lane, so to speak. What Minding Your Own Business…
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If we want to live a more mindful, peaceful, and joyful life, it’s important to first learn what we’re aiming for. I call this way of thinking and living “consciousness.” When we first embark on this path, it’s useful to learn what consciousness actually IS and what it looks like in our lives when…
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One common misconception I frequently hear about conscious living is that it is passive, selfish, or that it makes us complacent. Often, when we hear about consciousness or conscious living, we think of a bearded, half-starved monk sitting in lotus pose on a mountain top, far away from the rest of the world and…
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I probably don’t have to tell you this, but romantic relationships are some of our most challenging relationships. Why? Partly because you choose your romantic partner. You don’t choose your parents or siblings or neighbors, but you choose your partner. And the way you choose your partner is not so straightforward as it might…
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